Everyone is born for a purpose, while there are spiritual reasons there are also ‘human’ or worldly reasons. A simple worldly reason is to fulfill your life aspiration, or as I like to call it, the “intangible goal”. It is an intangible goal because you cannot see it or hold it with your hands. However there is one organ in the human body that can feel it and it is none other than the heart. So what is one’s life aspiration? People who have played the virtual game of SIMS would definitely know what I am talking about.
We are born and raised subconsciously to be more attracted to a certain aspiration and it can be love or romance, money or wealth, family or popularity. If you gather two people together and ask them what their definition of success is or at what state they would feel satisfied with their lives, their answers would most probably differ. Person A might answer it is when he becomes a billionaire, while B’s answer is when he has settled down in a harmonious family.
There is no wrong or right answer, after all we humans are not homogenous products thus we think, act and feel differently. The tricky part is going through the stages in order to find out what your life aspiration is, and when it comes to that the best teacher to educate you is experience.
Being raised in a goal-oriented family shaped my views
I was raised in a goal-oriented family. We were used to setting targets for school grades, work plans and most importantly, future life plans. Both of my parents were hardworking entrepreneurs and perhaps that explained how we were raised to look far ahead, predict the market and to set our visions. We had a very open communication and my parents often supported us to voice out our opinions, and because we were all so opinionated we often debate with each other (notice I use the word debate and not argue). However in the end our parents were able to direct us to their perspectives on things.
Honestly I think there is nothing wrong with parents trying to control their children because it is a form of raising them up. It is the way they do it that determines the children’s feelings of either feeling contained or feeling like they are being taught an important life lesson.
The grandmother of all my life goals: Be Happy!
Growing up I had one simple goal in life and that is to always be happy. I felt happy when I received gifts from my father, praised by my mother or being taken to Disneyland for holiday trips. Compared to my older brother’s intangible goal, mine sounded like child’s play. His was clear that he needed to study and work hard in order for my father to stop being too operationally involved in the family company and maybe retire earlier (he is a workaholic you see). While my father brings my brother to the production floor, I played with the antique typewriter in the office and eventually broke it.
Looking back we were so young, I was around 10 years old and my brother was 12. How my parents managed to get us to go to work with them was pretty amazing because after all a factory was not the most conducive or fun place for a child.
Nevertheless, I enjoyed spending my time there, typing on that typewriter and pretending like I was writing a novel or a script. Other than that I would read and paint. My favorite books were the Harry Potter series and I loved to paint. My parents cultivated my passion for art when they supplied me with art materials and took me to auction houses such as Sotheby’s or Masterpiece. I was immediately in love with Affandi’s (one of the old masters of Indonesian paintings) expressionist paintings and was immersed into the intense bidding sessions that went on in the auction room. Setting up an art gallery and being able to price or value paintings did come across my mind as a dream job. Hence come to think of it, I was always on the pursuit of happiness wherever I was in the factory or in the auction house.
I was a happy child who had quite a unique taste, imagination and dreams. However, I would enter a period of my life, where my pursuit of happiness would be challenged as I made it a goal of mine to graduate University as fast as possible.
This is the first entry of Cynthia’s Life Aspirations Blog Series. The second entry in Cynthia’s Life Aspirations Series, “The Prime Goal: To graduate University as fast as possible” will be posted next week. Follow Global Youth Journal or like the Facebook page to stay updated with the release of the next post.
“Cynthia Wijaya was born on 6 October 1994 and raised in Jakarta, Indonesia. At the age of 18, she graduated from the Macquarie University in Sydney, Australia. Currently, at the age of 19, she works in her family business of manufacturing industrial paper and corrugated boxes. During her free time, she enjoys writing about the lessons and situations she encounters in life, and the people she meets. Most of the writing topics revolves around reality and how it works from the perspective of a “19 year old”.